My hubby and I celebrated our 8th year wedding anniversary on Monday. Craig, you’re #worthit and I’m #blessed
What has eight (wonderfully glorious) years of marriage taught me?
Stand your ground.
Kidding! Kinda 😉
In all seriousness, people will respect you for standing your ground. Craig and I don’t always agree but we respect each other’s views. Others may not always agree with your standpoint either but they’ll respect you standing up for yourself and for your beliefs.
Take the USA for instance. They’re currently in the throes of a contentious election – as are most elections. History is littered with notoriously ill-equipped leaders voted in as presidents. They’re elected, not because they make the best decisions but because they’re so darn confident in how they sell themselves. They spew their opinions around as if they’re facts AND people buy into them unquestionably. They stand their ground and do not budge, even to the detriment of their people.
Then you get great leaders. Visionary leaders like this remarkable woman that I interviewed for my book. She is the CEO of Wealth at one of South Africa’s ‘Big Four’ JSE listed financial institutions. She’s a powerful woman. Petite in stature and embraces her femininity fully but commands a room in a way that demands respect.
I shared this excerpt, from our interview, during our #LivingOnPurposeBookClub session on Monday and again during our mid-week #WhyWednesday session on Instagram.
“In my role as a woman in business, I’ve always been surrounded by men—but I don’t think about the fact that I’m a woman. If it’s an issue to you—that you’re the only woman in the room—then it’s going to be an issue to them. I just am who I am. If it’s not an issue to you, it’s not an issue to others, so it doesn’t matter what your minority issue is. Ask yourself why it’s an issue to you and then reject that.”
What is your issue?
What belief have you held onto that keeps holding you back from … (fill in the dots)?
Are you aware of what is blocking you or are you still trying to figure it out and move through it?
Truth bomb
The only way that you’ll (actually) be able to succeed in reaching your goals is to identify and, most importantly, release those limiting beliefs.
- Do you retreat into the background, figuratively or physically, in certain circumstances or around certain people?
- Does your voice (literally) get softer and smaller?
- Do you hold yourself back and procrastinate from going after what it is that you say you really want?
- Are you struggling with imposter syndrome?
Insight
So why do you keep sabotaging your progress? You’re capable, competent and smart enough to figure it out, surely?
It’s natural to experience moments of insecurity but when those moments hinder your growth, ‘success’ and opportunities more than once, then there’s a block that we need to shift.
I want to encourage you to stand your ground, to stand in your values, and to stand in your purpose.
Your Purpose will override self-doubt when it creeps in, and give you the confidence to own your space.
Take action
If there is a conversation or a meeting that you need to have this week, I want to encourage you to reconnect with who you are, what you stand for, what you believe in – let that give you the confidence and courage to show up fully. Even if you don’t ‘seal the deal’, you’ll at least be a step ahead.
Let’s chat
The only way that you’ll (actually) be able to succeed in reaching your goals is to identify and, most importantly, release those limiting beliefs. It’s near to impossible to see your own blind spots – that’s where I can help. If you need the clarity and direction to help you identify and move past limiting beliefs that are holding you back, book your (no obligations) 20min call with me: petra@petralaranjo.co.za
